Lisa Raye~ Nature vs Black Folks

Episode 1: My Intro to Lisa Raye

Episode 2: Take 2, Literally

Episode 3: What Chilli Wants?

Episode 4: Birth of a Runner

Episode 5: JemsLifeForASPS.org

Episode 6: ….Get Out the Kitchen

Episode 7 : When the Praise Go Up

Episode 8: Momeger

Okay, so Kai is turning 21 years old….and her mom is coming along? The devil is a lie!!!! lol. Please tell me I misheard the commercial…lol.

Take 2 in 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, #ALLWHITEDiamonds

Lawd! The way that Kai came back at her mom…. I feel her and I agree with her. But my mama would have jumped across that bed and popped me in my face. lol.

But I want to know who the camera man was that had to film Lisa Raye taking her clothes off to get in the shower. I ask because that jewelry rack was perfectly placed in front of her. And it was priceless to see Kai turn the cold water off on Lisa Raye while she was in the shower….lol. Again… WHO is the camera man who gets to see Lisa Raye running butt naked with an ill-placed towel on to try and get Kai back? lmao!

LMAO!!! The friend that was suppose to know how to put the tent up and doesnt is enough to make me not g on the trip…lol. Quincy is cracking me up sitting on the sideline. Did Candy cut her hair? And I know that Lisa Raye is a white clothes wearing woman… but to go camping? WAAAAAAAAAAAAIT! She puts liquor in her tea? I have some pomegranate tea in the cabinet and some vodka in the fridge…. this might be a great night. I’m gonna try it and let y’all know how it goes…lol.  And Kai cussing in the back after she got kicked out of L-Raye’s truck and into the other car made me bite my lip.

WAAAAIT… y’all saw Tom jammin?! What song was he jamming to?

LMAO! Did L-Raye say that she is not going to use the bathroom for 2 days? Okay, let’s see how long that lasts.  I mean $600 for camp food and supplies…. that is about 8 months worth of groceries for me…lol. I wonder what is wrong with Lisa Raye’s chest and why it is hurting her. See, that would have been my cue to tell them fuck all this camping stuff, wrap it up and get me to the nearest hospital. She looks like she is suffering. But I love how Tom has turned in to Negro M.D. Was it really liquor that caused her to get sick? Okay, I may not try this tea and liquor tonight if that can happen.

LMAO!!! Lisa Raye put tissue up her nostrils so she wouldnt smell the outdoor toilet…lmao! Hilarious! Damn, that is the largest tent that I have ever seen in my life. LMAO!!! And Lisa Raye peed in the bushes because she refused to use the outdoor toilet. hahahahaha! They wrapped this stuff up like they were on the Underground Railroad and they heard the dogs coming….lol.

I mean, I have NEVER been to Las Vegas, but at 21…. I swear y’all I would have done something too off the chain and wouldnt be here to write this blog…lol. Wait. Y.G? Young Gangsta? lmao!!!!! Dear Black Males, please oh please stop tatting your neck if you do NOT have at least a 2 million dollar trust fund. Wait… did Lisa Raye really check everyone’s I.D.? I mean, Kai is not turning 16.  Wait…. did someone call the stripper pole a “safety rail”. lmao! And Kai is chugging a bottle of Cristal? And whoooa!! Let me find out that Kai can dirty wind!!!!. Damn ! That WAS the Real World Las Vegas  suite.  I remember watching that season. So, L-Raye… I’m turning 31 this year….. you want to be my mama?

Ummmm can someone please tell me that Kai is NOT feeling Y.G. WAAAAAIT!! Lisa Raye got everyone shoes & purses as gifts for Kai’s birthday?

Oh snap! Is this an hour long episode/finale? I thought I was going to have time ti get back to The Neverending Story  on Retroplex….guess not.

Now, I am on Kai’s side about this. I think that Lisa Raye should have set the room up and then let the kids find it on their own. Hell, hire one of the camera men to take pictures of their entrance and then take still shots from the video. Then the next day….tell her she is there. But, at the same time… your mama could have chucked you the dueces after the party bus….lol. Be grateful!

LMAO! QUincy’s mohawk!!! I don’t remember his hair ever being that long. Is that weave?

I love the “Real McCoy” floating music during Rick Thomas’ Vegas magic show. Didnt it look like Rick Thomas choked the shit out of that dove and then he pulled it apart into 2 doves? And maybe this is me. If Lisa Raye knew that she only had 2 minutes to get backstage and change….why didn’t she put on a white sundress to make it easier on herself? Just asking. Maybe the weather didnt call for it. But……WOW!!!! The way that L-Raye disappeared!!! Fabulous! hahaah Kai called her a show girl…lol.

I called it! I knew that Quincy was leaving as L-Raye’s personal Assistant. WOW!!! Quincy is 43? Says who? I need to see his I.D. because I wouldnt put him a day past 32.  But at least he spoke his mind and knew that it was time to move on. I applaud him.

This was a great season…. I wonder if there will be another season. But this one was a great one, in my opinion.

 

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

 

 

 

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

Lisa Raye~ Momeger?

Episode 1: My Intro to Lisa Raye

Episode 2: Take 2, Literally

Episode 3: What Chilli Wants?

Episode 4: Birth of a Runner

Episode 5: JemsLifeForASPS.org

Episode 6: ….Get Out the Kitchen

Episode 7 : When the Praise Go Up

See, I am getting better… sitting here two-strand twisting my hair, but this post will go up on time if it kills me! So, What is Lisa Raye up to this week?

Take 2 in 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, #ALLWHITEDiamonds

Okay, Lisa Raye said that “celebrity” is overrated. She also said that they have the same problems as the normal person. Ummmm… I don’t know what it feels like to go purchase a pair of Louboutin shoes and to have my black card declined. Hell, I wouldn’t even get cleared for a black card yet alone to be bold enough to try to purchase some Louboutin.

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The comedian that sang to a vagina cracked me up!

Ummmm wait, did Lisa Raye just say that she cant do jury duty? Umm… excuse me, but regular people have to do jury duty.  And pardon me, but I think that this outfit that Lisa Raye has on when Kai says that she is thinking of getting a breast reduction is the same one she had on when she was double-dutching in stilettos 4 episodes ago. If it is, then they need to do better editing. If not, then celebrities do repeat outfits….lol

WOWZERS!!! The camera men were allowed to be in the bathroom when she lifted her bra to let her mother feel how heavy her breasts were. But damn… I know exactly how Kai feels. I want a breast reduction too. Lose weight first, then breast reduction….okay back to Kai…lol Wait! They said that they still have scars?!!! Ummm…second thought. But that is a cute bra that she is wearing though.

I personally think that Kai is beautiful the way that she is…. But I understand that it is all about what makes YOU feel better about yourself. Okay, soooo can I be a model with L.A. Models ? I mean, I am just asking because they are taking Kai as a plus size model.

Okay, Joe eXclusive is back? He scares me.  Is that CHIN!!! Oh, my bad, Natalie Nunn…lol. Wait, and Tanisha… is this a Bad Girl’s Club reunion or something? Is Fresh Pain a club? Or what? Well, whatever it is…. It is janky!I mean the set up was crowded where the models came from and I was not impressed. But… it is what it is.

Oh snap! I thought that Lisa Raye was going to all Caesar, the Dog Whisperer, but noooo she calls Patrice Ryan, the pet psychic. LMAO!! Lisa Raye said, “Damn, who knew that Diamond has so much to day”….lmao!

That’s it?! *sigh*

Next week: Ummm black folks in the woods?!!!! This has comedy written all over it. And I think thatQuincyis going to stop being Lisa Raye’s personal assistant. Sad!

 

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

 

 

 

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

Lisa Raye~ When Praises Go up….

Episode 1: My Intro to Lisa Raye

Episode 2: Take 2, Literally

Episode 3: What Chilli Wants?

Episode 4: Birth of a Runner

Episode 5: JemsLifeForASPS.org

Episode 6: ….Get Out the Kitchen

I am ready to see Lisa Raye’s journey…..

Take 2 in 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, #ALLWHITEDiamonds

WOW!!! Like listening to Lisa Raye tell the story about how these preachers tried to scam her dad via religion! I get so pissed when humans try to tell you the will of God and proclaim that they can do it. Soooooo what kind of tutelage does Luther McKinistry give?

Lol. Okay, I bout choked when I heard Lisa Raye say dang instead of Damn. But I do understand what she means when she says that she wants to hear a Bible story that speaks to her. I think that I can go several months at church without hearing anything from the Bible that speaks to me… but then there are moments when they do and I can’t explain it. And yes, I understand Lisa Raye because I too want to know the Rules of Christianity.

OUCH!!! Lisa Raye didn’t get any alimony?  Ummmm….. I can’t even comprehend one hundred MILLION dollars. As the premiere of Turks and Caicos, how do you go through a hundred MILLION dollars? Dear LAWD if you ever give me ONE million…. I will hold on to it until my great, great, great, great grandchildren die!

I might need to go to the Woman Thou Art Loosed conference one day, cause LAWD knows I am tied up! First Lady Serita Jakes doesn’t age a BIT! That woman is beautiful to me.  LMAO!!!! I love how Candid Lisa Raye is being with them. LMAO~~> First Lady said that Lisa Raye is going to have to put a cap on it when it comes to sex.  Ummm… where can I purchase this “cap” because I’m trying to behave too, but I feel you Lisa Raye!

Okay, I have to admit….. I am JUST NOW learning that his name is Thomas Dexter Jakes….lol. I knew T.D. wasn’t his name but I took it how I was given it…lol. Bishop does the scripture about Paul on the road toDamascus. He said that we find too much time deliberating over what God plans for us. I almost cussed!!!! I needed to hear this sermon.

Soooooo how much do I have to pay to get a one-on-one sit down with Bishop Jakes? I’m willing toget a second job to raise the funds if you will let me know how much his time costs. I know everyone wants to have a moment of his time…. So I’ll wait.

I LOVE how Bishop said that I am ALLOWED to ask questions until I got answers. “People can take your stuff, but they cannot take what made that stuff” Hmmmmmmmmm. ”When God says wait…. It means wait. In the Greek, in the Hebrew, in the Now”. Mmmmmm. I swear…this right here touched MY soul. WOW!!!!

Okay… this episode was WORTH watching. I don’t think that Lisa Raye can understand that she has blessed SO MANY PEOPLE by filming this episode. Mmmmmm… I’m Loosed too.

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

 

 

 

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

Lisa Raye~ ….Get Out The Kitchen

Episode 1: My Intro to Lisa Raye

Episode 2: Take 2, Literally

Episode 3: What Chilli Wants?

Episode 4: Birth of a Runner

Episode 5: JemsLifeForASPS.org

If I remember NOTHING else…. my future husband, Chef G Garvin, is on this episode. So, shut up and let me watch this episode.

Take 2 in 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, #ALLWHITEDiamonds

So, I had a very HARD day at work. I have a migraine and really wanted to just come in and go straight to sleep, but I needed a pick me-up…….this is doing it!

Waaaaaaaaait! Did Candy just sit there and say that the best mac & cheese was the kind with the government cheese…lmao!!! That was funny. And wow!!! This cook-off challenge literally came out of nowhere. So I guess that there was more conversation that got edited.

I am looking at the outside of Lisa Raye’s house…. and I must admit, it doesnt look like it would be a house that Lisa would choose. Why in the hell is the house not white? I’m just saying.

Okay, so now Lisa Raye is trying to be on her Sonja Norwood? And I am listening to Lisa Raye being a “momeger” and it seems so casual and laid back and not very manager-ish. And then she threw in a pitch for them to send her clothes in a size 6…..lmao! Hood fab.

I would go to buy Apple Bottom, but I dont have an apple or a bottom….so I would be in penalty for stepping foot in the store…lol. As president of Donk Deficiency Anonymous, I have to represent for the assless. lol.

Beverly Johnson’s daughter, Anansa, is gorgeous!!! But then again, I have to say this…..she looks like what the modeling industry wants plus size girls to look like. She has the slanted eyes and high cheek bones with the long hair. I want them to let everyone be represented. Can we get darker skin tones, kinkier hair, etc. I am not knocking either of them for working out their hustle….but I want the industry to give someone who looks like me and not someone who is shaped like me. Is that too much to ask? Either way….they both are beautiful.

I want a photo by Derek Blanks!!!!!! He will superimpose the Royal Wedding in Kenya if you ask him too! lol.

Kai is ROCKING this Apple Bottom photo shoot. The one with the black dress and she is standing up…… PRICELESS!!! That is gorgeous!!! I want that dress….. *googles*

HERE COMES MY HUSBAND!!!!!!!!!!! Damn, his hands even look sexy as hell. Dear Lord, I have NEVER prayed to you for a husband, so the fact that I am coming to you now should tell you how serious I am. Please let me be found by Chef G. Garvin….lol. Wait, no lol… I’m serious! Yummy… he looks as delectable as his food is. *shivers* LMAO!!! Did Chef G. Garvin do the Huxtable Jump-back at the “from the side” joke? hahahahahaha.

CANDY BETTER BACK THE HELL UP OFF MY MAN!!!!! *Takes off earrings* *Blocks her prayer* Y’all think that I am playing…. I want G. Garvin.  I want to be Mrs. Chef G. Garvin….lol.

And……. I think that Lisa Raye tried to burn their throats with that burger….lol. But at least she won the cook-off. The only thing that is starting to bug me is these little 2 word commentaries Lisa Raye does. “It was down to the wire” or “What was I to do?”. They needed to fill up the 30 minutes? lol.

Awwwww…. it is over? Chef G. Garvin is gone already? Okay, so…. who out there can get me a date with Chef G. Garvin?This is not a TEST or a JOKE… I’m so serious. Do I need to cook? I can cook for him. I’m from the south where in order to breathe in your house you have to cook by the age of 8. lol.  But this was a good episode to watch. Next week’s episode looks good too. And scene.

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

 

 

 

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

Lisa Raye~ www.JemsLifeForASPS.org

Episode 1: My Intro to Lisa Raye

Episode 2: Take 2, Literally

Episode 3: What Chilli Wants?

Episode 4: Birth of a Runner

Just ready to see this week’s episode… nothing special to say before hand.

Take 2 in 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, #ALLWHITEDiamonds

I simply LOVE watching Lisa Raye in the kitchen with her mother!!! Those are moments that I wish that I could have had with my mother, so I am more than jealous. *Sigh* Wait til you all read my book when it gets finished.

I simply, Simply LOVE the t-shirt that they gave her for her birthday that said “My friends call me Lisa Raye” LMAO!!!! I simply AGREE with Lisa Raye about the black attributes that people only applaud when someone else has it. She mentioned Bo Derrick’s braids and she mentioned Kim Kardashian’s ass. Yeh, it only becomes a big deal when people do what we have done for centuries and what we do/have naturally…. but PLEASE don’t get me started on this. The next time I see a KKK member… I’m gonna wish him skin cancer as he tries to get my natural melanin….lol.

Sidebar: Okay, so this whole “Stacy lost Lisa Raye’s Louis luggage” thing is getting on my GOT DAMN NERVE! Okay, let me put this in perspective. Rewind with me now. The first episode, Lisa Raye asked if the airline had lost Stacy’s luggage and then made the remark ” Let me not put that in the universe. But at least I’ve got mine”. I’m begging you, watch the reruns with me, Lisa Raye is HOLDING HER OWN LUGGAGE while she makes that statement and she is talking about celebrities showing up in town at airports. Now, as fans are requesting pictures and autographs, clear as day, the cameraman catches a glimpse of Lisa Raye walking away from her bag and it is in every shot in the background as she takes pics with fans. You can see the luggage behind them unattended. LISA RAYE walked off from her own bag.  And I must make the connection to the episode with her make-up artist, where she offered to carry her make-up artist’s bags for her. So you can carry someone else’s bags but you cannot carry your OWN and then you get made because someone else didn’t check YOU for your OWN bag? Get out of here on that.  So, be grown, and carry your own shit!

But at least I am glad that Lisa Raye and Stacy got over it and that they have moved on from this. It was a learning experience

Wait… did Quincy just say that he has Herpes Complex 10 because Lisa Raye kissed him? LMAO! I love that man! Lawd knows that I do!. And Lisa Raye said hat they fight like cats and cats.

But wow!! Lisa is 43 and truth be told…. she doesn’t look a day over 29. And I am not trying to gas her up…. but truth be told. I need to het on my Lisa Raye game…lol.

Jemisha’s (sp) fundraiser was a very WONDERFUL idea. But wait, what kind of treatment is going to be performed for her Sarcoma Cancer(sp) that could help Jemisha that she can only get in Germany? I will continue to send prayers in her direction. I wish that there was a website that we could go to so that us regular people could send money to support Jemisha. I want to support and send funding support DIRECTLY to her. Will inquire as to where I can do that. I mean, a sister aint balling outside of a budget, but every little bit counts and I think that I could skip a few meals to make sure she has a fight chance. What? SHut up… you would get sentimental too if you were human. I just don’t dog people out via my blog and in real life all the damn time. I have a heart….and I want to help. So, get ya game up and help too.

I LOVE Jemisha’s look that she is rocking for her fundraiser. JUST GORGEOUS!!!!! Yummy… DeRay Davis. I have some back story on that man there! lol Don’t worry… nothing scandalous, just a story on how I first met him while I was at Auburn University…but I digress. Glad that he is hosting this fundraiser with Lisa Raye. ANd the man who gave $200 is fine as hellllllllll………. NAWL!!! Elise Neal is in a girl group called Elise & Assorted Flavors? Okay, maybe I would have has to hear that in real-time. Or replay. Ummmmm…yeh. Okay, this comedian, Donovan, talking about the lace fronts is funny. He can stay.

AHAHAHAHAHAHA! They didn’t have to clown dude that they called Hustle Simmons. lmao! But he did look like how Russel would look if he were tall and fine. What? I’m just saying. Damn, Brooke Valentine?!!!! Where has she been? Girl Fight was my joint back in the day; that and MisBehavin’s Beat that Bitch with a Bottle. Okay… Ummm I should have been paying attention to KD/Katy Aubert or whoever that was, but I was so distracted by the cameraman all up in her crotch!

WOW!!! Management is paying for Jemisha’s flight over to Germany. Man, I really feel like I should do something. This is just beautiful. Dont ever let it be said that black people can’t get together for a cause without being arrested or shot 9 times. We have our moments,and this was a moment to be proud of! I salute Jemisha!

Okay, so they did give a link where we could donate to the cause for Jemisha if we so choose. The link is: www.JemsLifeForASPS.org

All jokes, and freedom of speech aside, I am making a vow to go and donate SOMETHING to this cause. If you do nothing else…..please go make a donation. Hell, you all don’t leave comments below so you can use that time to go make a donation. And no, I don’t know her….and I don’t have to know that I want to help.

Next Week: HOLD THE HELL UP!!!!!! Is my husband on next week’s episode! Yes, you didn’t know. I am married to Chef G Garvin in my head. And no… it is not my inner fat girl speaking…. this is my Southern woman recognizing a beautifully crafted and talented gentleman!!! Lawd have mercy!!! See y’all next week…lol

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

 

 

 

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

Lisa Raye~Birth of a Runner

Episode 1: My Intro to Lisa Raye

Episode 2: Take 2, Literally

Episode 3: What Chilli Wants?

So, last week was one of those shows where I had to face what was going on in my life as I blogged. Yes, it is hard to know that I am in the same boat as a woman who is beautiful as hell….and know that she will get a relationship before me.  And not to mention that the entire week was filled with a ton of relationship challenges….the guys that I came in contact with last week challenged me to the core.

With all of that being said…. I hope that this week’s episode does NOT make me look inside of myself.  Well, let’s go.

Take 2 in 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, #Diamond

I know that I just said Take 2 above…..but that was Thursday when I thought I was ready to write this. So, to say that I am late in writing this would be an understatement. I am sooooooooo sick that it is not even funny. I hate spring and I hate that if I think about getting sick…..I am down for 3 weeks. So, to everyone who was looking for this to be posted on Friday, my deepest apologies. Please know that I have been well medicated, dehydrated, and plain knocked the hell out and preparing for Easter Sunday. I would have rather been writing this.

Now that it is Sunday and I just woke up from a coma after church at 10pm after only an hour or so of sleep from last night…yadda yadda, yadda….I figured I could write this before The Borgias came on.

Take 2 (Literally) in 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, #AllWhite

Okay, so Lisa Raye is running her first 5k marathon for the Susan G Komen: Race for the Cure. Hmmm…. I will take Lisa Raye’s cue and I will begin to condition myself to run my first 5k marathon all the way through by spring races in 2012. I think that is a believable time frame, right? And so does her trainer not have a last name?

Okay, so remember the cousin that lost the suitcase? Isnt that her assistant? Why have we not seen her since they have returned from Puerto Rico? Did she fire the poor girl? And truth be told….. karma is a bitch. Because watching all of those reruns of that episode Lisa Raye did joke about her cousin losing her bag and boasting about how she had hers. And in several shots when the fans are taking pics….the Louis V suitcase is visibly in the background, and not even Lisa Raye is near the bag, but….I digress.

Now, on to this new stylist. Wait, back up. Joe eXclusive……I don’t know if his outer appearance would have made me trust him enough to even give him an opportunity to dress me, but I guess I could learn not to judge a bargain basement book by its cover. What? You thought that just because it was Easter that I would be easy on him? BWAHAHAHAHAHAH! You know better. Okay, back to this new stylist. Her name is Okera. She pronounces is Oh-k-ear-ah. Cute. Too close to okra to keep my humor in tact. BUUUUUUUT!

I love her mother’s house….the little bit that we got to see. And the dog, Diamond…is so cute. Now, if i could get my dog, Stanely Blu to give a high-five he will be the coolest dog in the neighborhood…lol. Right now he’s smart, but too smart for his own good…lol. Wow… how about I am just now learning about Circle of Promise….wait, no, I take that back. I remember Gabrielle Union mentioned it on The Mo’Nique Show. My Aunt Sharon, is a survivor of breast cancer… so to watch this episode hits home for me, too. Now, Lisa Raye putting on make-up to run a race continues to remind me that there will be something that I dont understand about her in every episode….lol. I guess it is a celebrity thing. But I do see Lisa Raye caring for her make-up artist touched me so very much. THAT is not a celebrity thing, that is a human thing. Those are moments that I love to see in Lisa Raye.

Man, I am watching them run and I am wondering….why are they running so damn fast!!! Slow it down people… I am getting tired just watching them. I would do what I call the “fat girl shuffle”, that’s more of an accelerate walk …less of a jog yet more than a walk. But I applaud her for her effort. Lawd….did I promise to be able to do that by next Spring?  YEA!!!!!!!!! Lisa Raye finished the race!!!!!!!! That really touched me. Okay… so yes, I can do it! Well… I learned a ton from this episode….can’t wait for the next.

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

Lisa Raye~What Chili Wants?

Episode 1: My Intro to Lisa Raye

Episode 2: Take 2, Literally

        So, today I feel HORRIBLE! I think that death came and raped me last night and left me with all kinds of illnesses…lol. All curable, of course, but still illness just the same. My head hurts, ear is throbbing, TMJ on the brink of world domination…you name it, I’ve got it. So I went to work late and left early. I slept from 4:30pm until around 11:30pm……and I woke up so that I could blog about the Real McCoy. So y’all better appreciate this mess!

Take 2 in 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, #Lights,Camera,Diamond

        Okay… sooooo there is something to be said about how sick I am. I forgot to set my DVR and sooooo I have to wait until later today for it to come back on. I apologize for being late, y’all. Blame it on death and not my heart…lol.

        So, I have been sick all day, I slept, worked from home for a minute, went back to sleep and woke up in enough time to catch it at 3pm.

        Well, Well, Well. I need to find out more information about Divas Simply Singing event and The Diva Foundation founded by the all around diva herself, Sheryl Lee Ralph. This is the first time that I have ever heard of this event, and what a great way for me to do it. I have a great suggestion for the organization and I wonder if I can get it to her. But for those who have not watched this show yet,Divas Simply Singing is an event that raises funding, provides testing, and information for AIDS/HIV testing.

        And I get the whole entire scene with Lisa Raye crying when Sheryl talks about finding her blessing in her husband, Vicent. Sheryl said that people have to stop saying that there are no good men out there in the world and begin to understand that you just havent come across yours. And the whole” we can be Betty White” joke when Lisa Raye said that she isn’t getting any younger stung.  This week of all weeks is NOT the week that I needed to watch this particular episode. I understand why Lisa cried, I wanted to cry too. I feel like every time I lift my head up I am hearing another guy tell me that I am not what he is looking for. I have heard every reason in the book. So Lisa Raye, honey, when you want to cry again…call me and I’ll bring Ben & Jerry…lol. We’ll both find our guy one day while our ovaries are still functioning….at least mine.

        Now, the two of them heading over to the Shawn MacKenzi Agency to see a matchmaker made me cry laughing. So, does Jasmine Diaz, the matchmaker, ask everyone the same questions, or was that asked just for the show? But, I must disagree with Lisa about money being the top of my list. But again, she and I are two different people, so I can’t judge it…. I just don’t agree or understand it. I agree whole heartedly, the size of the penis does not matter to me as long as you have enough not to pee on your nuts but enough to work it. Too much penis looks nice, but it hurts and is useless, so men need to get that out of their minds. Only loose women, women who started off with huge penises, and damaged women actually like the gigantic penises. And I know they will tell me otherwise, but I want what works for me…and huge doesn’t work for me.  Wait… did Lisa just say that she wake Quincy up every day….naked? lmao! All that view wasted on a gay man. The world is so cruel…lol.

Now….WHAT the hell is Joe eXclusive?!!!! People actually let that man look like that? I mean, I am all for self-expression, but self-destruction… your friends need to produce an intervention!!!!  This blonde hair and nails on this highway tar black man is not working for me. An amber brown is the lightest that he should EVER go. But who am I to judge…again…I just dont get it.

Okay, so….Lisa Raye is at Meso Solutions to get her cupping done. She has all of these cups on here and they suck the fat cells up to the surface to erase the cellulite dimples that appear. And she even got a butt lift, naturally with this suction action. Hmmm….let me google how much this technique actually costs…..brb. Boo, hiss. I was able to find spas who do it, but no price was included. Moving on.

        I loved how Lisa Raye helped to raise money for The Diva Foundation. It was hilarious to watch her make people give money into the hat, auction style. I saw B. Scott through the curtain, the guy who played John Coffee, and many more. It makes me wonder can regular people come to this event as well. Hmmmm… Is that Omarosa?

       On to the date. WOW! Okay, so she is like me. I, too, hate roses. But can I get a guy who wants to send me a lilly…hell, a flower period.  J. Alexander Martin, the owner of FUBU is Lisa Raye’s blind date. And he has never been married, and doesn’t have any children running around and he is sitting there waiting for Lisa Raye. HOLD THE HORSES! J. Alexander said that he loves Lisa Raye because she is a sign of the women from his generation; she is ghetto and bourgsie (sp). But for Lisa said that it is easier for men to eat sushi because they eat pussy all the time….smdh. I swear, why can she get away with saying stuff like that?  And J.Alexander is the perfect gentleman from what I saw. I wish that there were more guys like him floating around in my area. And if there are….where can I find them? *Sigh* See, this show hit too close to home this week. LAWD!!! Give me something that I can judge and criticize…lol. I have more fun judging….lol.

       Okay, this was a great episode, something that I needed to see.  But it does remind me of What Chili Wants….lol

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

200 Men Said…. Get Tested

        First, before you read this, read my blog from last Monday~> Writer’s Block: Tsion the Wordsmith~Miss Valentine .

        As a female who lives in the AIDS/HIV Capital of the U.S.A,Washington, D.C.,  I am sooooooo big on this topic that you wouldn’t even believe the efforts that I go through to make sure that women understand what they are putting their bodies up for when having sex. I have to be up front ladies… the condom is NOT the man’s responsibility….alone. You, too, need to have two of each size condom ( just in case he should come up short) and you should also have dental dam. If the phrase “dental dam” just made you tilt your head Scooby style, then honey, you need to STOP having sex immediately because you are missing very important elements of sex education and sex preparation.

       Yes, I am grown enough to know that everyone is not safe all of the time. Now that we all have admitted to it, what do we plan to do about it? Ladies, how do you plan to protect yourself? As a woman, there have been times when I have gone and gotten tested and found out that my guy had sex with an ex the day I got tested which voided the results he showed me. Or the guy’s wife ( who lived in another state) saw pics of us on Myspace and wanted to know what i was doing with her husband….and I didn’t even know he was married…did I mentioned she lived in another state?! Or being with a guy who reveals that he use to like men. I don’t judge him… but this is information you need to tell me BEFORE we head down this road. So you see, preparing yourself with knowledge about your partner is just as important as if you put a condom in your purse or wallet. You need BOTH to be safe in the game of sex. Nothing is guaranteed. NOTHING!

        Using a condom but having oral sex without a dental damn makes about as much sense as you getting gas and pulling off with the tank wide the fuck open. Yes, I’m being a hypocrite…but, as a reformed hypocrite I have seen the errors of my ways and I wanted to step forth and be brave enough to talk about it. So yes, I get tested before EVERY guy I am with. Yes, I only have ONE sexual partner in a 12 month period….NO EXCEPTIONS! This is what I do, but even this is not enough if I don’t know the status of my partner. I need solid proof, like seeing his results or going to get tested with him. So, this is why I am celibate and have been for quite some time. I might set a fire if I cross my legs, but at least I am healthy.  HIV NEGATIVE!!!!!!

So, I asked my 200 men the following question: 

HIV/AIDS is high in certain communities. How often do you get tested? Have you ever gotten tested BEFORE sex with a person? DO you do the mouth swab or blood test?

And they came back with the following answers.

• Prestige “The One And Only”: Every three months, blood test.
• Allen Ozark: Yup Tested. Nope, not positive. in fact i have NEVER had any kind of STD … EVER! and i never will! I understand the whole aids / std epidemic, but i just don’t understand the whole aids / std epidemic. a true gentlemen never infects others.
• Lateef25: Every six months
• *~ MR SPONTANEOUS ~*!!PEACE!!: I get tested often, but it’s a requirement with my job to get tested every year. They have always taken my blood. I would not have unprotected sex without knowing the other person’s status.
• Aries Brotha: At least one a year. Yes. And it’s a rather moot right now as i’ve decided to reframe from having sex. Just dating.
• Kip S: I get tested every year. Yes, I’ve gotten tested before and after sex, typically blood test.
• RANDELL the caribbean prince[R]: well i only have one partner at a time. I don’t sleep around but i get tested every six months
• K-LUST THE WILDEST MOUTH!: I HAVE BEEN TESTED. AIDS FREE. I USE THE SWAB AND I HAVE HAD MY BLOOD TESTED. MOST RECENT TEST WAS LAST YEAR!! JUNE. IMMMM SAFE!!!!! SO LETS GET IT INNN!! LOL
• ”DUKE” BANNER: YES I ALWAYS GO TO THE DOCTOR EVERY SIX MONTHS. I HAVE RA AND I GO TO MY CARDIOLOGIST I WAS POISON HAD GOT REAL SICK

And then ladies, you have men who respond like this:

• Pete E.: not in my community

       Yes, he did say that AIDS does not exist in his community. I hit him up and pressed further. He said that no one where he lives has AIDS or HIV and he would know so this doesn’t concern him. I tried to press further but he just wanted to holla at me. Did he really think that he could get my number after a response like that? SIKE!

        And you know that now and then you will run into the religious aspect of a question like this. But trust me when I tell you, NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING, could have prepared me for this particular religious spin on getting tested for HIV/AIDS:

• www. twitter. com/kingdomgate_ent: Never got tested nor will I ever! If God is for me who can be against me? Aids is a curse and Jesus already took that to the cross. I just do my part by not putting myself in the judgement seat by sleeping with every woman in site.
• Me: Hello, I thank you for answering my question about getting tested for HIV/AIDS. Your response is very admirable. I just have to ask one question and I hope that you can answer it to help me better understand your response. You said that you have never gotten tested and nor will you ever. SO my questions are: 1. Do you know that in some states, to get married, you are required to take an AIDS test? 2. Are you a virgin or have you ever had sex before? And it was interesting to listen to the song that is on your page as I write this note. Arise-Cherry Pie. Have a blessed evening.
• www. twitter. com/kingdomgate_ent: Im not worried about that. Yes I have had sex before,but aids is the last of my concern.
• Me: Did you use protection when you did have sex before? Sorry to be personal, I just agree with your original comment on some levels and am bothered by them as a woman on another. So, I am just seeking clarification.
• www. twitter. com/kingdomgate_ent:The difference is I am focused on Jesus and you want to focus on aids, aids is a judgement but people in the Christian world get healed from it everyday. I don’t worry about sickness because I’m not going out sleeping with everyone,or anybody for that matter my past is my past I don’t go digging into it. If there is a church that’s gonna be raptured up who is worried about disease? Jesus nailed disease, sickness, and misery  to the cross for everyone,everybody just doesn’t have the same measure of faith. When you don’t tap into faith you don’t know what you truly have access to in Jesus Christ. 
• Me: Okay, so… I agree with you on some of it. So are you saying that you are refraining from sex until you get married? And you currently do not know your HIV/AIDS status because you are covered in the favor of God?
• www. twitter. com/kingdomgate_ent: I’m covered by the blood of Jesus therefore I do know that I don’t have aids,this is not what I think it’s what I know.

        Ummmmm…I am sitting here trying to wipe my face clean but I can’t. He did give me permission to post hit Twitter link, so I did get that clearance. Again, I do understand being covered in the blood of the lamb. But you can NOT make me believe that I can walk outside of God’s kingdom to fornicate and then come back in to behave holier than thou and claim the blood in retrospect. Aint no way! You cant expect to be of the world and be covered by that which is not of that world.  It doesn’t and will NEVER work that way.

        If you behave in the world, you must abide by the rules and laws of that world. Therefore, do not be so afraid to get tested that you run behind the amour of God. I have faith in God to know that I will walk into the testing facility, get tested and be HIV Negative. THAT is how much faith I have. But I am also wise enough to know that if I keep testing God’s patience with my worldly activities that He can use HIV/AIDS to the betterment of His kingdom. So I am not immuned if I dabble in the world while engulfed in lust.  It is all or nothing!

        So ladies, even the religious dudes can get you hemmed up with something you can’t get rid of. So somewhere between you breaking the headboard and singing in the choir on Sunday, BOTH of you need to get tested. I am not judging you for the contradiction, but I am advising you to not continue the contradiction and hide behind faith. It isn’t wise. Protect yourself.

        I’ll never forget sitting at the McDonalds on Alabama Ave SE, D.C. with a coworker when a guy walks up and says, “Hi, my name is Michael. I’m HIV Negative, no kids, own place, and I drive” as he proceeds to pull out his HIV Negative Test results. I COULD HAVE DIED!!!  It was hilarious because it was random, but how scary is it that seeing a man with his HIV Negative results was sexy as shit! Have we reached this point? Soon will we need to have hand-held scanners like the BBM coder to see if the person you are talking to was Negative? I hope not, but stuff like this only happens to me. I swear.  People… You are NOT Magic. You don’t have his money, nor his insurance. WRAP IT UP! GET TESTED! KNOW YOUR STATUS! GET TESTED TOGETHER!!!! Protect yourself first. And anyone who makes a stink about it… tell them to go dry hump cement.

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

Writer’s Block: Tsion the Wordsmith~Miss Valentine

        Okay, so….this topic will NEVER get old to me. It is a topic that is close to my heart. And I can’t say much about it in this intro because it would spoil the read. So…..

        I called in a  favor to a real good friend of mine, Tsion the Wordsmith, and I asked him if he could send me a copy of this poem. Tsion and I slammed on the 2009 Busboys and Poets 11th Hour Slam Team together…and this would become one of my favorite poems. I mean, the way that he sets it up to the way that the story unfolds….beautiful. And of course I plan to tell him this one day… but I dont want his head to get bigger than what it already is. LMAO! But, I called him as soon as I sent out the question for my 200 Men because it was the FIRST thing that came to mind. I wanted local DC, Maryland, and Virginia talent to be showcased for this particular topic. Plus…. I get to expose you all to some of my amazing friends and their talents. I could talk about it for hours, but I would rather you read it first. Enjoy!

Miss Valentine by: Tsion the Wordsmith

It was a Thursday…
and I was on the corner of 14th and Lennox listening to a crackhead preach about how we was all sinners and needed Jesus
now I wasn’t paying him no mind, just indulging his conversation
growing impatient though cause I had my eye on this bar named “Susie’s”
owned by a Jamaican  whose name was…
well, I don’t think nobody really know what his name was
I finished up talking, walked across the street went into the bar
and heard a voice say, “you gonna have the paul mason straight?”
surprised me cause that’s the thing I would drink whenever I went into the place…
then from around the corner walked the prettiest face I had ever seen
if looks were skills then she would have been the captain of the dream team; and the first at that
plus she had a body to match
for real, this woman was a killer
if looks could kill she would be number one on America’s most wanted list
gliding and swaying across this plane; every now and then she would kiss it with her presence

so, she slid up in front of me and said, “I know I surprised you by knowing what you like to cop
but I know you also only come in here on Thursdays and you always sit in the same spot
easy, cause you been coming in here for about six months and two weeks
and I hope its not too conceited but I’m the best looking thing in here and you never once decided to speak
maybe you didn’t notice me cause I was in the antibody crowd and it’s kinda hard to notice anybody when antibodies are hanging
but if anti-bodies are hanging around anybody, it should let you know something is bound to go down
cause antibodies only hang around anybody when somethings going down”
….I didn’t understand one word said; but she told me that was alright cause i would before the night was over
told me her name was Susie and asked, “what’s yours young soldier?”
I told my name was Tsion and asked was she the Susie that ran the place
yeah was the reply and I found it funny cause I would never put that name to that face
she told me it was her daughter’s name and she did it in her memory
“no matter where I go or what I do, she will always be here with me”
so I asked her real name but she brushed me off cause she had other customers to attend to
figured I head through my Thursday ritual of four drinks and head back to the capitol
when I heard “that’s it young soldier, you just gonna speak?
you not gonna ask a pretty young lady out to eat?”
I had a couple dollars to spare so yeah, we could go out for a bite to eat
but before we go, she said she had a couple of her white blood cell buddies she needed to meet
I guess she did some time and her cellys were white
they must cut each other, bonded and became blood sisters for life
so we met up with them and I was still thinking what exactly, what is her name
I asked and with a wicked grin she said “Maylene”
but I figured that really wasn’t her name
but she said if a rose were called by anything else would it still not smell the same…
…true….true…

well, we made it back to my place and before I could the key in the door her lips were on mine
her arms were around my shoulders, and my hands on her behind
the whole time thinking exactly what is the name that her mother gave
I asked her again and she said “call me dominatrix for tonight you will be my slave”
slave to my motion, slave to my track, slave to rhyme, slave to my kat
and it ain’t bother me cause I figured it would be the best I ever had
so when she told me she would be with me for the rest of my life, all I could do is laugh
at my good fortune; saying if only I could believe everything you say as true
she said you can for what I’m about to give you, there is no cure
so jump aboard and ride this ride, but remember lil boy it’s best when you do it rawhide

so we started stroking…
and she wasn’t lying when she said she knew what she was doing
losing my on ecstasy street by the way she was moving
her kitty kat walls
it’s like they grew claws and pulled me in
had my back arching and bending in ways that I never knew it could bend
blending the lines between fantasy and reality until there was nothing left but she and I
and I was trying to maintain composure but it was like with each little stroke I would die
and go to heaven; never wanting to come back, wanting to stay embedded between her thighs
and I figured since I was a real man I had to give her at least 45 minutes of good loving
but after 12 she stroked me real hard and I cried out and filled her with my seed for a thousand tomorrows…

at that point, I was out of breath…
laid my head on the pillow, felt something moving, looked over, this woman was getting dress
so I jumped up, threw on my pants as she was running down my hall
called out real loud “can I have your name and possibly your number so I can give you a call?”
she laughed out loud the biggest laugh I had ever heard in my life and said “little boy, you ain’t been paying attention at all
you don’t need my name or number, imma be with you for the rest of your life; for tonight I made you one of my white blood cell buddies
but if you must know my name is Hazel Irene Valentine…
but you can call me H I V…

 

        So, what’d you think? I thought that this was a clever display of wordplay placed in a realistic setting and hidden behind an obvious epidemic. I think that as a society we have become complacent when it comes to the awareness of the preventable. And not just HIV/AIDS, but in life in general. I love how this was placed from a male’s point of view as seldom do we as a community get the opportunity to hear how men are exposed. This has become a woman’s disease, if you believed the media. They make women responsible for knowing their status. They blame DL brothers for keeping it going. So at what point do we blame everyone for their actions?

        Of course I had to do my own research, so I asked my 200 men what they thought about the topic. And you would die from shock based on what you read. So, come back tomorrow and read what they had to say in 200 Men Said….Get Tested.

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

CD Baby: The Diary of a Reluctant Poet

Reverbnation: Tsion the Wordsmith

C.I.A: Condom In Action

200 Men Said….#2

        Ladies, I know we have all been here, in the moment, heated, just wanting him to shut the hell up with all of his sweet talk and get straight to the reason why you are pinned up against a wall with your clothes wrapped around your body in weird geometric configurations. Yes, there. And sometimes, just sometimes…..all caution goes out the window and you get the party started quickly…but not right. How many of you have fallen for the “baby just let me stick the head in” routine? What has it cost you?

        I have to raise my hand here and confess… yes… I too have been here. I contemplated leaving my personal experience out of this one, but I figured it would hit harder if I put a face to this. Judge me if you want, you dont know my journey, and where I was in not where I am, nor are the decisions I have made in the past those that I will make in the future. Is this an every time I have sex thing? No, but have I had unprotected sex before? Yes. But he is just soooooo fine with his amazing body, his eyes, his voice, his hair, his….yeh..that too….lol! I digress…Even though it was unprotected intercourse with just 2 guys, ten years apart, it doesn’t make it right by any stretch of the imagination. I should have requested that he wrap up. If not for him…for me. I’ve had a guy who I was with have rumors come out that he was HIV positive years later.THANK THE LAWD I USED A CONDOM!!!!!!!!! I’ve had a guy I was dating have his wife hit me up asking why I was in pictures with her husband & the reason he lives in a different house is because she is trying to divorce him after finding letters and receiving calls from his gay lover. THANK THE LAWD I USED A CONDOM!!!!  Yes, no matter how monogamous you THINK you are, you may not be in one in actuality. So I get tested EVERY year whether I have had sex or not. I only have ONE sexual partner a year… if that….the great ones may be repeated the next year..TMI I know..but this is all about growth. And the lesson has been learned ( not saying how recently) that a condom must be used at ALL TIMES!!! Yes, I will fight the urge from here on out….as HARD as it may be, these mistakes can be costly. So, since I know this… I wanted to see what guys thought of a girl who wanted to have sex with them without a condom. I can hear the Bible thumpers now…. if I had just stayed a virgin until I was married…lol. But since I didn’t, these are the experiences that I have had.

        What would my actions in the past say about me? How has my not so smart judgment in the heat of the moment broadcasted about my self-worth, my overall intelligence, and my concern for my health and my partner? Since this is a lesson that I’ve learned, I can talk about it freely. I believe in sharing my journey so that others don’t have to take the same road to get to the same place. So I wanted to let the ladies know, if you are out there having unprotected sex….this is what the men are thinking of you.

200 men were asked:

Most men don’t like to wear condoms, so how safe do you feel with a woman who doesn’t make you wear one if you aren’t in a relationship? Have you ever NOT worn a condom? Why? WHat made it okay?

 

And even though I wish I could post all 200 of their comments, here is what 8% of them said:

1. Tony Raymond **Thank El Grego**: BOTH sexes don’t like to wear a condom due to the unnatural feel. It just says that she is open to diseases but it’s how easy to get her open that says I am not the only one in a week…No condom?Yes.Natural feel and extend relationship made it okay for me
2.  kingdomgate_ent:  They say condoms are to prevent disease but in all actuality its a form of birth control. I don’t just have casual sex. The only woman I plan on sleeping with is my wife. So this condom question doesn’t apply to me.
3. K-LUST THE WILDEST MOUTH!: I USE PROTECTION ! A LOT OF THINGS TEND TO HAPPEN IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT! IF YOU BOTH FEEL SAFE GO FOR IT ! IF ITS A SECOND THOUGHT USE PROTECTION! I HAVE HAD UNPROTECTED SEX NOT MANY TIMES BUT IT HAS HAPPENED. I AM THANKFUL TO BE HEALTHY AND SAFE.
4. Willie C: I always wear a condom. I have never not worn one, anytime I have had sex I have always put one on.
5.  Code Name Bigsexy: you gotta wear 1.a woman who doesn’t make you wear 1 probably doesn’t make other men wear 1. STRAPPPPPPPPP UP!!!!!!
7. James F: i don’t feel safe at all..and she’s not gonna make me do anything..I don’t want kids so i wear a condom..relationship or no relationship
8. Vincent: I don’t. I’m very cautious since I trusted a female when I was 15 and then she told me she was pregnant. The women I’ve been in relationships with normally get angry at me because they want me to take it off but it’s a trust thing.
9. Mr. Mayor**DARKSTARZ INC PREZ**: Not safe at all. I have not worn one. I was in a relationship…. but I still should have worn one. That didn’t make it ok
10. H. Xavier: I don’t feel safe ,back in the nineties i hated condoms ,but now they’re ur best friend,yes i have not worn a condom before ,with a friend who we were mutually not seein anyone else at the time,but it wasnt ok! u learn from ur mistakes !
11. Sybree B: Well i am one of those men that don’t like to wear condoms ,but I also don’t have sex with any woman,cause there’s to many diseases out here and i love myself too much to kill myself.
12.  big slim: I don’t feel safe when a woman wants too lay down with me without a condom. I just have to fall all the way back…
13. Black Kryptonite aka the KID: True, most men don’t prefer to wear condoms. However, I have worn a condom and still made a child. My stance is I wear them until we discuss not wearing them or we are in a monogamous relationship and decide not to wear them.
14. Jay: I love condoms like fat kids love cake. The only person I would ever have sex with without a condom would be my significant other. I never had sex with a woman that I didn’t know without wearing a condom. I love sex soooooooo much, but not that much.
15. James L: I prefer to be in a relationship before sex is involved. Therefore, condoms will not be necessary for us unless it has been agreed upon! No relationship, no sex, no condom!
16.  ……. :I can’t speak on everybody else,but i have to wear a condom.
17.  Bryan P: i don’t like wearin um who does….but [I] have to trust u in order not to wear it cuz i like my bestfriend… lol and don’t want it to have bumps on ’em… and yes ive [gone]raw … i knew the person
18.  IM ON MINE GROWN MAN!!!!!: Well I don’t like to use condoms cuz I can’t feel the wetness n the juicy
19. ”DUKE” BANNER: MOST PEOPLE THAT DONT WEAR THEM SAY THEY GOT CAUGHT UP IN THE EMOTION. I HAVE TO REMEMBER THE OLD SAYING, “BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY ” IF I DONT WEAR ONE WITH YOU I [DON’T] KNOW YOU BOTTOM LINE
20.  ! A WORK IN PROGRESS !: i always wear one. and if she doesn’t i getta steppin cause something is not rite
21. Lateef25: yeah when i had sex [w/o a condom] with her more than 8 times and I knew she wasnt having sex with anyone else but it was still unsafe
22.  Hossein M: Well I have to agree with you saying men don’t like condoms because I don’t, but I am better safe than sorry and I leave no room for discussion when it comes to unsafe sex outside a relationship.
23. Anthony W: I never had sex without a condom.
24.  Positiveibes: I’ve only gone w/o with women that i had long-term relationships even that made me nervous. it’s not even about H.I.V. for me i protect myself b/c I don’t want K.I.D. w/ someone that’s not my wife.

My favorite comment happened to have come from :

1.  Trayvon S {Men Of Respect}: that is correct, most men don’t like wearing condoms. But if you are with a woman who doesn’t make you or suggests that you wear one, dont do it. Yes, i have not worn a condom with a woman i just met but i made sure that she hadn’t slept around

 

        He said that he has slept with a woman who he just met and didn’t use a condom, but “he made sure she hadn’t slept around.” If I had enough time to ask I would wonder, how did he make sure she hadn’t slept around? It isn’t that easy to tell with women. WOmen can sleep with 5 guys in a day and no one will ever be the wiser but her. So how does one know for sure how many people their partner has slept with other than taking their word for it? And since guys don’t want to know how many men their girl has been with prior to them, this too can close down the streets of communication about sexual history and the practices of the person that you are trusting your body with. Trust me, I have gone and gotten tested with a guy just to find out months later that he slept with his ex-girl a week before we got tested and that made our test void because he was not out of his window period with her. Do you know how SCARY that is to know that you did everything YOU were suppose to do to only find out that the other person has lied to you and put you at risk?  These are the lessons that I have learned and thankfully have remained HIV NEGATIVE after all of this foolishness.  We’ve got to do better.  ALL OF US.

 

        So you see, the consensus is that you should ALWAYS wear a condom. Even those who said that they have to know you, and be in a long relationship with you….they should wear a condom too. You never know a person until you say “I DO” and even then there are some activities and reports of spouses catching diseases. SO just play it safe. Wrap it up at all times. And if this person happens to be the one you marry… have a free-ballin event! But I just wanted to bring this discussion to the fore front and get everyone talking about it. You can post a comment anonymously if you would like. Use the email 2deepuncensored@gmail.com and leave a comment. Make up a name and comment. We need to get this discussion going. So, lets wrap it up! or become celebate like me! Hell….its been so long… I’m afraid to cross my legs b/c I might spark a fire, but at least I know I am K.I.D free and H.I.V/AIDS free, ya dig!

 

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~