200 Men Asked….Special Edition

        So, I figured that since I ask my 200 men sooooo many questions, I might as well allow them to ask me question or two. So, there is no other rhyme or reason to this blog other than to post the questions that they asked me and for me to answer.  I also find it interesting to see what questions they chose to ask me when given the opportunity to do so….lol. Well, here we go.

So I asked my regular 200 Men:

I am ALWAYS asking you a question. Thanks for answering. But if there was one thing that you could ask me and I HAVE to answer it, what MATURE & RESPECTABLE question would you ask?

And they, in return, asked me:

MR. LOVING: Why are you here? What do you do? If you are single, why are you?

        WOWZERS! I did say ONE question right? So, since the question is a legally binding statement I get to answer one of these questions. So, I choose the first. I am on [this social network] to meet cool and interesting people; mission accomplished. I love to come here and chat with different people. And 200 Men Said and the Questions application is amazing.

Lateef25: Why are you so curious of what men think?

        I think that I am so curious as to what men think is because seldom do we ever hear what you all think. As a woman, magazines are written for women, by women. And if you do get a book about what a man wants or thinks that is written by a man, that is only THAT man’s perspective which cuts out the other 99.99999999 percent of men out there who think differently. So, I though….why not ask 200 Men questions to get a wide range of experiences and opinions. Plus, I have a ton of female followers on Twitter (@_2Deep_) that ask me questions. I give them advice but I think that it means more to have them view what you write as an answer to my question. That way they dont think I’m just another girl giving girl advice, but real men telling them how it is on the other side of the fence. Besides, most of the time I think like guys in certain situations so I am highly guy sensitive..lol. And finally, the world is all about uplifting women… seldom do you see anything male focused… so I thought that I would do my part.

Nigi “Pistol Star” Pu Yi: Simply 2 Share Ur Knowledge wit Me 2 Help Me Grow In Our God’s Eyes, Mind, Spirit, n Vessel..Thx

        I don’t think that was a question…. but thanks just the same. Read my answer to Lateef25 & let me know if you like it.

Chub L:  Mature and respectable huh? lol….Anywho!, #1. What gruesome events have transpired in your life that have caused you to be as no non-sense as you are? #2. Why do you like asking me questions?

        Ummm…. Check out My blog Advice From the Other Woman , The House My Father Built, and What Happens in this House: A Molestation Survivor Speaks (Click the Blue to read those blogs). There is SOOOOO much more, but that is where it starts. I have come, and continue to come, to the conclusion that those are just things that I have overcome and not situations that define me. So, I made up in my mind that people were not going to run over me or bullshit me and anyone who does will get canceled quick. Hope that answers your question.

rroyallty: How about this: What are some of the most annoying/ignorant questions that you have received from guys on [social networkin site]? Do you 1. respond put them, 2. put them on blast on your wall or 3. just ignore them.

        Okay, I see what is happening, everyone thought that they get to ask 2 questions because I said “mature and respectable”. lmao! NOPE!  But to answer your question, I think it depends. Sometimes I just dont have the energy to put a guy in his place so they get ignored. Other times I just have to put them in their place, but I do so by using reverse psychology. lol. Like if a guy says something sexual to me that is inappropriate I may tell him that he is so much better than what he is displaying of himself and that he shouldnt even want a female who would reply to that. Other times I just go straight for the nuts and gut check ’em. lol. And yes, sometimes I have placed people on my status just to let the rest of the nut bags know not to mess with me. So, yeh, it depends.

 CHRIST- O:  Could you, as Queen, express the lady inside you, while taking charge like a real Independent Woman and still be the supporting structure in a serious relationship?

        Okay, so I wrote 3 Blogs about this: Lyrically Speaking: Lyfe Jennings~ Hero, 200 Men Said…. An Independent Woman’s Place, and 200 Men Said….Cater to Me (All of which will be posted in the upcoming weeks so come back and check out those links..lol) But to answer your question and not give away the blogs….yes, yes I can. I think that the term independent woman captures all that in its true definition. If I had to pick two eras where I could live comfortably it would be the 90s during the day and the 50s at night. I so much want to be a power house kind of woman during the day and a cater to my man type of woman at night. I dont think that one would take away from the other at all. I don’t have to be under my man all of the time, but when I am I cherish those moments and appreciate them greatly. I believe that in order for me to be there for my man I need to have my life, and my own goals in order to come back to support him by using my experiences and my problem solving skills. The experiences that will build together will be a bonus for me, a bonus that I look forward to. So, now that you have caused me to lose my street credit…. may I move on to the next question? lol.

 Black Kryptonite aka the KID: Why do you ask so many questions? After awhile that can kind of become . . . . I think you get the point

        LMAO! Well, first…. I thank you for your honesty. Secondly, I ask so many questions because I was just starting the series here on my blog. I didn’t know how long I would have the attention of you all so I thought that I would ask as many questions as I could think of and how ever many questions my Twitter followers could send me. But now that I am actually behind in writing blogs I have slowed down a bit…lol. But I thank you for answering them. I promise not to be a pain in the ass any more.

Code Name Bigsexy: lol. I’m a man so I’ll go with…. are you attracted to me?

        LMAO! Sexy… I swear you are a trip and you keep me smiling. I mean… yeh, you could get it. lmao! I would have to let me resident White Boy Drew Law know that you are giving him a run for his money, because I am all ready for a fight over me. hahahah. But I like your straight-forwardness, and how you are you and that you never change. Your character is amazing and is very admirable. So keep doing you boo… it’s sexy.  Just don’t take any more prison squat pics…lmao! You know I had to get ya!

!: If you met a guy you really liked but he was only interested in companionship or very close friend with benefits but nothing serious at the moment…would you be okay with that ?

        Ummm… would I be seeking a relationship with him? I mean, no matter what I have to listen to what he is saying and NOT what I am interpreting him to say. And yes, I have become good friends with guys that I really liked and over time they remained good friends and I am happy with that. Every guy you like is not meant to be a person that you will date and you have to be mature enough to understand that. Also, as time goes by you find out more about them and become thankful that you didn’t date them…lol. Now the whole frienifits package… ummm… I have only done that once and yeh, never again. I say never again because it becomes pointless to share yourself but not share yourself. It’s like you are a kissing a person you are not in a relationship with and that seems so friggin pointless. Had fun, but never again. He messed it up for everyone. lol. Just kidding, he didn’t mess it up, it just wasnt the arrangement for me to have with him. Lord I am telling too much… NEXT!

 ICE: Would you put more pics up of you in a shirt and heels?

        Hey rroallty, was this the type of questions you were referring to? lmao! Just kidding, but not! Ummm… ICE, to answer your question… probably not. That was a one time photo shoot and I was the one with the MOST clothes on in the entire house…lol. But I take it that you enjoyed the photos and I thank you for that.

DSMILEY1: Why are you not married yet? 

        Usually…..I ignore this question. But I will give you an answer because you asked. I am not married because I have yet to be asked by a man for me to marry him. My typical answer, when pressed for one, is because it was not my time to be married or again, my husband hasn’t met me yet. I always find that a weird question to ask a woman, because it is obvious. She hasnt be asked. Now it seems more appropriate to ask a guy since he is the one who does all of the asking. But when the day comes, if the man is the one….. I will say yes. Was that too smart-ass of an answer? I tried so hard not to be…lol.

 

P Reddz: Are you a shrink or a detective? No disrespect. Your questions are all good questions. 

       

       WHy does everyone say that?!!!!! No, I am neither. But it seems like I should be because you are not the first to ask me that. I just think I was supposed to be an investigative journalist of sorts.

 

BIG SEKZI: What’s your ethnic background

       

        I am a mut! lmao!!! Of course I am African American. My grandmothers are both African-American, my great grandmother on my mother’s side was half Native American and half African. My Great-Great grandmother on my mother’s side was FULL blooded Native American (her picture is beautiful!) & my Great-Great Grandfather was a slave. My mom has that Naija blood in her veins. NIGERIA STAND UP!!!My Dad’s side of the family is sprinkled with Puerto Ricans & Good Ol’ Black Folks…lmao. [Shot out to my cousins, the Garcias] And I was born in Germany….lol. So yeh.. I’m eclectic, to say the least.

PIECE OF WORK!! $$PET$ PET$ PET$$$: What makes you keep conversing with me?

        For starters, because you are intelligent enough to use the word conversing. THAT IS SEXY AS HELL!!!! Yeh… you can get it. lol. But because I think you are a mystery and I like that. SO keep being you.  Plus, you’re not so bad on the eyes. lol.

 

”DUKE” BANNER:  As a woman of your caliber, would you date a man below your standards because of what he looks like?

       

        Ummmmm. Can I plead the 5th? lmao! Okay, honestly? Yes, I have dated a guy who was dumber than dirt because he was fine as hell. But one day he said he wanted to take me to the National Mall to see the “pencil building.” And if you have the look on your face that I THINK you have… then you would know how I felt when he called the Washington Monument the “pencil building”. I never called him back after that. So, will I ever do it again? Ummm NEGATIVE! I have learned that the very standards that I would like for guys to hold me to and appreciate me for are the very things that I need to appreciate guys for as well. Lesson learned.

 

 

 …….:  How high is the sky? And give me the square mileage of earth?

 

        Since you are my resident smart ass… I had to reciprocate and be a smart ass with ya…lol. FYI….the second part is NOT a question but I shall oblige just the same. So since the term “sky” is so vague I had to get specific as to fully answer your question. So, how high is the sky?:

Troposphere	ground to 6 miles
Stratosphere	6 miles-50 miles
Ionosphere	50-300 miles
Exosphere	300-600 miles

And give you the square mileage of the Earth? No problem, sir. The Earth’s surface is composed of 196,939,900 square miles. I hope that this answers your question. lol.

 

Aries Brotha: What’s the best way to gain your attention, or get on your good side?

 

       What kind of question is that? That’s like you asking me what is the easiest way to break into my house and where are all of my valuables…lmao! I get what you mean, but I can’t tell you that. What I will tell you is to be you at all times. If who you are works well with my patience level, then you are golden. If it doesn’t, then it was nice knowing you while it lasted. You should also learn not to tell people how to please you because wannabes and fakes will immediately become that to please you. But if people have nothing to go off of but themselves, they will eventually slip up and show you their true colors.

 

 

 !! MYLES C AKA Mr.Grown-N-Sexxxi !!:  Hmmmm, would you be willing to give me a chance?

 

        Gee, Golly, WOW! Straight to the point.  Well… my honest answer will be…… Yeh. But by yeh  I mean, I am giving you a chance to converse with me. I never promise anything beyond conversation. I don’t know much about you other than what you answer in my blog. So sure… you can converse with me. Who knows what friendship could come from this. But from what I have seen thus far…. you’re pretty amazing. And ….not bad on the eyes either. lol.

 

        Like I said… it was going to be interesting to see what they asked me after the SEA of questions that I have hit them with over the past month and a half. I think these were good questions, but naturally….women are accustomed to asking more and better questions…lmao! I might do this again in the future. Thanks guys!

 

Sincerely,

~*My Mother’s Daughter*~

Please, Pose In Rememberance of Me!!!

Ladies,

Ever turned on your PC/Mac, the computer and not the make-up, just wanting to cruise profile pics of a bunch of guys, or even innocently clicked on a profile to see who sent you the random and rather pointless “Poke”? Or have you ever been too afraid to open up an email while at work because you have no clue what kind of profile pic will pop up, or can’t bare to stomach being accosted by a too proud guy who has too much faith in his “God can’t be that cruel to give that as a gift to women” kind of body? Well, have no fear… I AM HERE. I, too, hate having this world be filled with guys who have no CLUE what it is that women want when it comes to internet introductions and profile presentations. Hopefully, this blog will help you. Women of the Jury I present to you……

Exhibit A: The good old Bike, pet, wall, random scenary..everything BUT a picture of who owns the page?

Fellas: This makes us wonder what you look like, but not in a good way. We don’t see the bike, and only a hoodrat/gold digger would ever care what kind of car or truck you drive. If you in fact want a real woman…..post a real picture of yourself. Pictures like this scream “Bike for Sale” or ugly dude trying to seduce me with this bike that he’s…putting up for sale. Either way, this is NOT doing whatever it is that you think it should do in order to get you a girl. This to us is the equivalent of a fat girl only taking pics from the chest up…. she’s hiding something and doesn’t want us to see it. Well… since you don’t want us to see it, why should we waste our time trying to get to know you? Being yourself is the best thing that you can be. If you post a real picture I will promise to tell the ladies to wear their real hair at least once a month so you can know what grade of hair your future children may inherit. Deal?

Exhibit B: The thug that’s too hard for the hood and has hood credit on a black card. The kind of guy who always has the pic filled with liquor, weed, other drug related references, t-shirts, posters, etc and may actually partake in the activity in the midst of taking a photo…yeh…. screams sexy doesn’t it?

Fellas: Really?!!!! You must ONLY want to be with weed heads, crack heads, chicken heads, bobble heads, potato heads….anything with a head.  Looking at this makes me wonder if I have loss any brain cells due to second-hand viewing. My name should be Gonorrhea, pronounced Go-nor-ray…get it right!, I should have 6.75 children & this is my 8th baby daddy. This to a REAL woman would get passed in a heartbeat. This is like a big butt to a caucasian woman…UNWANTED AND DEFINITELY NOT CUTE! You have visually taken away any sex appeal. A woman is now thinking about how gross it would be to kiss you because your kisses would taste like either weed or tobacco…sooo nasty. And I know we’re not to judge a book by its cover… but you have made the cover of this book so unappealing that I could care less what the book is about because if you don’t care about the cover, the content between the binders can’t be all that fulfilling either. First impressions are lasting impressions and this say HOOOOOOOOOOD! As in the mentality and not the place… you can live in the hood and turn out very well, but a hood mentality is nothing to brag about….not at this level anyway. This actually breaks my heart to see….NEXT.

Exhibit C: The riffle toting man branding himself un[F]witable as he holds his manhood in his hand, praying that no one researches his nonexistent gun license.

Fellas: Nothing says “Loving” like my Toasters Strudel & a sawed-off shotgun! *Pillsbury Doughboy laugh* Yeh, FAUX News posts news reels daily of guys who have lost their mind when their girl revokes access to the cookie. Guys stabbing, shooting, setting ablaze,bar-b-queing, and even boiling and serving for dinner a current or ex-girlfriend. I HIGHLY doubt that this would attract too many SANE girlfriends. If a girl asks you out from this picture alone, call the cops because she is planning to either set you up or kill you for an insurance policy. The appropriate way to display your pride in your gun collection is umm…. to NOT display it. Mention it on your profile, once you talk with the girl and get comfortable & see that she can handle you as a person and your love for the outdoors…THEN you ask her if it is okay to reveal a photo of you with a gun. Girls look at stuff like that far differently than guys do. You want a welcoming picture and not a “Jason asked Cheney if he could borrow his riffle” kind of pic. Women like a protector, but a protector from other things and not always posed to shoot her if she decided to surprise you with a kinky round of cops and robbers and winds up with a shell, not her undies, on the ground and a round in her butt [finish joke here].I don’t see YOU in this pic. I see a gun that I think you already love more than any woman who would enter your world. Is there a medical term for people who have intimate relationships with artillery?

Exhibit D: The “Not Quite Him” Guy: The guy who looks one way, swears in his head that he looks another way but denial has yet to be a word he can spell without assistance. You have to see the examples to know what I mean.

The Guy who was brave enough to take this pic even though he looks like THIS, because somewhere deep down in his disillusioned mind someone, or himself, said that he looks like…..

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They swore that he looked like THIS! Yes, THIS!

GOODNESS GRACIOUS!!! I posted that pic and forgot where I was headed with this entire blog entry. Give me a minute for I have sinned-ed!!!!!!!! *Drools…….I should have kept up with his profile… [Blaspheme] smh.

I’m going to really have to take time away from this blog because I am really blank after that pic. All jokes aside… brb. lmbo!

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And any other combination of acronyms that you could come up with. Yes, I too am laughing at the fact that people who have NOOOOO business posing have the guts to post stuff like that. I know what he thought. The Top guy in Exhibit C was proud in his manhood.

Fellas: He forgot a very , VERY, very important lesson to remember…and that is that women are more MENTAL and not visual creatures like men. He is thinking from a MAN’s standpoint with this picture. You have taken away any fantasy that a woman may have by showing her what you ACTUALLY have….and I promise you what she was thinking was far better. Male strippers don’t have to work nor strip as hard as females because the male dancers know how to feed women a fantasy of what he has. Everyone knows he has a fluffer in the back and the list goes on….DONT TAKE AWAY MY FANTASY! Where this guy went wrong: 1. You have offended innocent women who did not ask to be flashed with an imprint of your genital area. 2. You have now told me what you think is the best thing that you have to offer. 3. If the smallest “area” of your entire being is the best that you have to offer why should I continue to try to get to know you? 4. Thanks for pushing any by standing children and teenagers into or further into puberty than had been planned by their parents. 5. Thanks for giving me hours of Twitter commentary and TwitPics. 6. How much self-esteem must you have that you do not care who has access to view your body….so even you don’t really view your “prized jewel” as a real gift. Since ANY woman viewing your page can see it…why should I think it was anything special for me to have? 7. Well at LEAST I know you’re not homophobic b/c ANYONE can view your pic. So you’re open minded…there’s one plus. 8. I had nothing else… I just hate odd numbers.lol.

So In conclusion……..

Fellas: Women still love to be wooed. We love for you to be fully clothed, on your best behaviour and putting your BEST foot forward. Majority of the pictures that we ACTUALLY see I couldn’t and WOULDNT post on my blog…well not today anyway. lol. But all of the pics I come across look as if you are more concerned with what your “boys” will think is cool if they saw your profile and has no regard whatsoever about what a possible prospective girlfriend would think if she looked at it. If your “boys” matter to you so much….. DATE YOUR BOYS! If that is not how you swing….and you genuinely and solely love women, present yoruself in a masculine manner that appeals to women; it can be done. Clean your bedroom up in the background. DONT POST A GROUP PHOTO AS YOUR PROFILE PIC!!!!! Dress in your every day gear but make sure you’re not sagging like a kid, write in proper sentences, use Punctuation and Capital letters…but not ALL CAPITAL LETTERS UNLESS YOU ARE YELLING OR MAKING A POINT! I’m not the best at punctuation, but please at least write in a way that shows me you are intelligent, made it past the 6th grade, and actually wish to impress me with your best. First impressions are all that we get sometimes…and just because this is the internet doesn’t mean that you get to rest on how you speak with a person. I’ll attack everything else in another blog… but this will bring you more REAL women in the meantime if you make these small profile pic changes. Trust me…..NOTHING ABOVE really attracted me..okay well the guy with the tatts made me forget a few things, but honestly I like the boy next door… a guy that looks like ummmm THIS:

 Beautiful smile…. simple. I know what he looks like, and although I don’t know him…. there is enough mystery here for me to send him a Wink, Poke, or a smiley face. He isn’t trying too hard to impress me, and I like that; a guy who is confident…or at least appears to be…in his own skin enough to the point where this pic was the one he chose to represent him. THIS is what will draw more women in than anything else you will ever hear your boys tell you women are attracted to. If you didn’t hear it from the kind of woman you are trying to attract…its a lie! So…. go remove those pics and post better ones. Happy Profiling!

Jury…court is adjourned

~My Mother’s Daughter